This caretaking thing wouldn't be so bad if we didn't have to fight about everything. I say, "Your feet are swelling. You should put your feet up. You are sitting in a recliner you know".
He replies, "I don't want to".
I reply, "People with swollen feet don't have a choice. Now RECLINE Damn it"!
The next day, I say casually, "We need to get a stool for the shower so you can sit and use the attachment to rinse off".
Husband replies, "I don't want a stool. I want my back FIXED"!
I say, "I know you do but for now we need a stool for the shower".
After a fun-filled afternoon of the husband going in and out of the shower to rest/soap up/rest/rinse off he admits we need a stool for the shower.
Wish I had thought of that.